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What Parts of the Wedding are Traditionally Paid for by the Groom's Parents?

By: Velas Weddings / 26 Dec 2022
Groom Family Financial Responsabilities

Historically, the father of the bride is responsible for covering the expenses of his daughter's wedding. Although many traditional weddings follow this same code today, more recent wedding etiquette calls for each party to help contribute, so the groom's family also has financial responsibility for the event.

Also noted is that many couples nowadays are deciding to eliminate this tradition entirely and pay for the wedding themselves (or divide the expenses based on what each one wants or can afford).

Whatever you and your partner decide, it's useful to know what parts of the wedding the groom's family may be paying for, as figuring out the finances is a good starting point when making and dividing the budget for the big day.

Here are some common ways the family of the groom may contribute.

Groom Parents Pay Rehearsal Dinner

Photo: Kape Photography


The Rehearsal Dinner

Although the bride's family and friends are also part of the rehearsal dinner, traditionally it's the groom's parents who are responsible for paying the entire cost of the rehearsal dinner. This includes all expenses: food, drinks, venue rental, and entertainment during the meal.

The groom's family can take advantage of this opportunity to surprise the couple with some sort of gift, one that's meant for before the wedding or would interrupt the itinerary on the big day.


The Flowers and the Bouquet

As a chivalrous and considerate gesture, the groom's family tends to be responsible for the expenses of the flowers that decorate the ceremony, as well as the bride's bouquet.

If they wish, this can be extended to also take care of the boutonnieres for the groomsmen and the bouquets for the bridesmaids.


The Marriage License or Civil Registry Fees

In some countries, it's necessary to process a marriage license, while in others (including Mexico), the civil registry process exists.

In both cases, it's usually the responsibility of the groom and his family to cover the costs of the legal procedures to get hitched.

Groom and Bride Family Wedding financial responsabilities

Photo: Ether & Smith


The Officiant 

The wedding officiant is also paid for by the groom's family. This may include lodging, if it's a destination wedding or if the minister is from elsewhere.

Some officiants don't have fixed fees, but prefer to manage their work based on donations. Whatever form the cost takes, the groom's family should pay them.


Gifts for the Groomsmen

As a form of gratitude, many couples decide to give their groomsmen a gift. They may be given on the day of the wedding or in the days following. This show of thanks is paid by the groom's party.


The Honeymoon

Finally, we have the long-awaited honeymoon.

Today, most couples pay for their own honeymoon or have some of the travel expenses paid for by their gift registry. But historically, it's up to the groom's family to pay the entire cost of the honeymoon, from any flights and hotels to the activities and tours the couple enjoys during their trip.

So these are the parts of the wedding that are traditionally paid for by the groom's family! As mentioned at the beginning, many couples don't follow this tradition, but if you prefer to receive support from your families for financing the big day, talk with them early on to establish how the details will be paid for.

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